Domestic Abuse

The government definition of domestic violence and abuse is any incident or pattern of incidents of controlling, coercive (to force someone to do something) or threatening behaviour, violence or abuse between those aged 16 or over who are or have been intimate partners or family members regardless of gender or sexuality. This can include but is not limited to, the following types of abuse:

  • psychological
  • physical
  • sexual
  • financial
  • emotional

Help and support is available

If you are experiencing domestic abuse, there is help and support available to you. This is not something you should have to endure alone.

Victims of domestic abuse are being encouraged to report the incident to their local police on 101 or in an emergency dial 999.

Outreach services are available across Surrey offering support, advice, information and access to specialist services to anyone in the community experiencing domestic abuse, whether they have left or are still in an abusive relationship.

Please find them listed below:

North West Surrey Outreach (This is a 24 hour confidential service)
Serving Woking, Runnymede and Surrey Heath
Tel. 01483 776882

Men's Aid (run by volunteers and is open Monday to Friday, 10am - 3pm)
For male victims of domestic abuse, support can be provided
Tel. 0871 223 9986

Surrey Against Domestic Abuse

The Surrey Against Domestic Abuse website offers help and support to anyone in the County affected by domestic abuse. Visit for more information.

Additional contact numbers:

Women's Aid and Refuge 24 hour helpline 0808 2000 247

Victims Support 0845 30 30 900

Childline - 0800 1111

Stepping up

Stepping Up is a service delivered by Kent, Surrey and Sussex Community Rehabilitation Company on behalf of the Surrey Against Domestic Abuse Partnership (Sada) for anyone in Surrey who wants to change the way they behave towards their partner. It consists of a series of tailor-made support sessions that will help individuals to understand more about why they behave the way they do and help them change.

If an individual recognises they are using abuse and control within their relationship, attending Stepping Up sessions will help them to:

  • Explore their beliefs and influences
  • Understand the impact their abuse has on others
  • Change abusive thoughts and behaviours such as jealousy, intimidation, coercion, aggression and violence
  • Develop communication, negotiating and parenting skills

At the same time, the individual's current or ex-partner will be offered support from a Partner Link Worker who will help them make informed and safe choices for themselves and, where relevant, their children. They will also be signposted to other services that will help them recover from the impact and trauma of domestic abuse.

Are you are worried about your behaviour?

If you live in Surrey you can refer yourself by calling 07921 937889 or 01622 356477 or emailing

A course manager will then be in contact to discuss the changes you want to make and to make sure you'll benefit from the course. This will either take place face-to-face or over the phone.